I only put the (non-religious) in to preempt the response "the only gay people who disapprove of gay marriage are self-conflicted fundamentalists".
I believe the objection that many gay people have is that they perceive gay marriage as attempt to push heterosexual norms of monogamy and family life onto a culture of people who have often rejected them (and suffered heavy criticism for that rejection, plus blame for HIV).
So rather ironically, gay marriage becomes a tool by the heterosexual population to "straighten out" gay people.
Whether or not you are swayed by that argument (personally I am not), it's not true to say that all arguments against gay marriage are rooted in bigotry.
By closing their mind and throwing labels like "bigot" at their opponents, the grandparent poster loses the opportunity learn about the world. That's truly unfortunate.
I believe the objection that many gay people have is that they perceive gay marriage as attempt to push heterosexual norms of monogamy and family life onto a culture of people who have often rejected them (and suffered heavy criticism for that rejection, plus blame for HIV).
So rather ironically, gay marriage becomes a tool by the heterosexual population to "straighten out" gay people.
Whether or not you are swayed by that argument (personally I am not), it's not true to say that all arguments against gay marriage are rooted in bigotry.
By closing their mind and throwing labels like "bigot" at their opponents, the grandparent poster loses the opportunity learn about the world. That's truly unfortunate.