An in-memory database is pretty simple - it's just a bunch of hash tables.
A server restart mechanism is also pretty simple. Write a cron job that activates every few seconds to ps aux and grep for the server name, and if it's not there start the server. That won't catch server hangs rather than deaths, but that's exactly the problem that happened here.
A server restart mechanism is also pretty simple. Write a cron job that activates every few seconds to ps aux and grep for the server name, and if it's not there start the server. That won't catch server hangs rather than deaths, but that's exactly the problem that happened here.