Are you upset that the Whitehouse invited citizens to the lawn, or are you upset that they banned someone who was behaving distastefully?

You can't ban the president from the White House.

/s

Ignoring the whataboutism here, what about it was distasteful?

Please see HN rule #1, this is not the community for that kind of discourse.

Being angry about one thing does not mean someone is ok with another.

And the context is quite different. The complaint about Trump relates more to what he is doing. Your complaint about Biden relates to something a party invitee did.

I guess a similarity is an element of virtue signalling. But if that is something you have a problem with then you must really hate Donald Trump because that seems to be his entire presidency. And the fight against homophobia is a legitimately virtuous activity. Right and wrong do exist.