I've had the same counter offer experience. I decided to stay, since I got what I wanted out of the deal. You need to be prepared to negotiate from a position of not-bluffing however.
If they don't offer incentive enough to make staying actually worth it, then do not, no matter what guilt trips are applied.
If they don't offer incentive enough to make staying actually worth it, then do not, no matter what guilt trips are applied.