That as a child seeing a parent struggle deeply has a very strong impact on their wellbeing?
This is obviously true, but it is unclear had they not undergone transition the children would have come better.
For the children it has probably not been worse than a bad divorce that unfortunately happens way more often. And to pursue the analogy, it is often hard to tell what is best for them, keep an unhappy marriage until they leave the house, or cut it short as soon as possible to leave more time to re-create stability afterwards.
One of the main things I’ve learnt undergoing psychoanalysis is how much pain and repression is caused by not allowing ourselves to admit that our parents are not perfect. For example I still to this day try to construct ideal people and am shocked when they show that they are still fallible humans, because I never fully accepted that my dad isn’t perfect, even if I know it intellectually
Going forth into the world and realising it is not going to look after us is a vital realisation that all humans must go through
I'd agree here. As a trans parent I have worried about what living an often non-socially acceptable lifestyle would do to them. But then I see the acceptance as my daughter proudly introduces me as her "mama" to her whole class. I'm a better parent alive living my truth than I am an "unalived" parent leaving a gap for those that loved me for me.
It's heartwarming to see this from your daughter. Never doubt that you're a better parent alive living your truth and that your daughter is grateful for you being there for her. Best of luck for continuing your transition.
