I thought so too. Then when I wanted to sponsor my wife's immigration application, the government wanted to see that we'd posted sufficient photos of our relationship on social media as evidence that it was a legitimate relationship and not visa fraud. Once something becomes normal, there's a penalty to being different, I guess.
> government wanted to see that we'd posted sufficient photos of our relationship on social media as evidence that it was a legitimate relationship and not visa fraud
You’re fine if you say no. If you say you don’t have social media and they find you do, of course that’s fraud. But I know several couples off social who were asked, explained, and then showed photos off their camera roll and were fine.
I assume if you have a good excuse, like being Amish, they let it slide, but you'd probably need to make up for it with support letters from your Amish community leaders attesting to the realness of your marriage.