I actually was in a terrible relationship with someone who I believe likely had NPD (IANAD. To establish I'm not making this up on the spot & provide more detail if you'd like to hear it, see this comment [1] from a year ago), and while it's true I did a bad job setting boundaries ("saying no"), the toxic manipulative tactics they used strongly remind me of the tactics in this document. They specifically told me I wasn't needed and wasn't helpful to them, multiple times every day, and when I would try to leave, they would tell me I was essential to them and that they would kill themselves if I left them. When I tried to erect boundaries, they would deliberately tear them down.
Establishing boundaries is healthy. Denying that you are in a relationship of mutual need is gaslighting. Establishing boundaries is about being honest about your needs and what you are able to provide in a relationship, and it requires making yourself vulnerable to someone; telling them where your tender spots are and asking that they not poke them. That is very much not what this document is about. This document is explicitly about denying people any possible leverage over you as a preemptive strike. Again, if it prescribed this behavior in the context of a sales negotiation, I'd have my thoughts on it, but I wouldn't comment on it. But it says, "go ahead and apply this idea literally everywhere," so I feel compelled to call that out for what it is.
May I ask if you have experienced a codependent relationship?
Establishing boundaries is healthy. Denying that you are in a relationship of mutual need is gaslighting. Establishing boundaries is about being honest about your needs and what you are able to provide in a relationship, and it requires making yourself vulnerable to someone; telling them where your tender spots are and asking that they not poke them. That is very much not what this document is about. This document is explicitly about denying people any possible leverage over you as a preemptive strike. Again, if it prescribed this behavior in the context of a sales negotiation, I'd have my thoughts on it, but I wouldn't comment on it. But it says, "go ahead and apply this idea literally everywhere," so I feel compelled to call that out for what it is.
May I ask if you have experienced a codependent relationship?
[1] https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=29781678