> I just need to convince the company to bump one total comp package, mine
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> Also, I have an easy time convincing the company that I am leaving (or not joining), if they don't accede to my demands.
And when your aggressive negotiating is too much of a hassle for the company they just have to fire one "problematic" employee, you. And unless you have created a hellhole of a system architecture in your project that only you can maintain as insurance/backup to your aggressive negotiation, you will be surprised to see just how replaceable you are.
To be honest, I do most of the aggressive negotiations before I join the company.
So if that's too 'problematic' for them, they don't need to hire me.
If you want to negotiate just as aggressively while working for them, you have to have your outside options all lined up. Basically, yes, if you threaten to leave, you should not be surprised if they call your bluff and take wish you farewell.
> ...
> Also, I have an easy time convincing the company that I am leaving (or not joining), if they don't accede to my demands.
And when your aggressive negotiating is too much of a hassle for the company they just have to fire one "problematic" employee, you. And unless you have created a hellhole of a system architecture in your project that only you can maintain as insurance/backup to your aggressive negotiation, you will be surprised to see just how replaceable you are.