I can “handle” Twitter, Facebook, etc. These services are part of my life, contained, separate. I cannot “handle” Discord. Discord is far worse for me. By default, the interface bombards me with either notifications or “soft” notifications that change the color of channels to make you wonder what’s going on in there. I’ve come to loathe it. I recently quit Discord, despite the fact that I run a Discord community of several hundred people. Basically just abandoned it. It was killing me. Twitter is like a pleasant minor distraction compared to this quagmire.
Couldn't you just stick to Discord on mobile and only open it when a notif comes? That way you don't see any changes in the icon, like on desktop. Plus, the notification settings in general are pretty flexible, one of the few things I genuinely like about Discord.