I do make the assumption that the reader is trying to look competent to their boss/clients yes. If that's not the reader's goal then I have very little to offer.
Whenever someone doesn't get it, it's easy enough to explain in one sentence: Technical debt is the result of decisions that we've made, willingly or unwillingly, or knowingly or unknowingly, that make changes slower and riskier.
The issue here isn’t that this guy shared something about his personal life it’s the particular personal details. It’s possible to share information about your personal life without talking about your drug use or your therapy or your drug use at therapy.
It is irritating that people expect you to understand what reasonable personal sharing is without explaining explicitly and goodness knows I screwed this up when I was younger but “don’t talk about your personal life at all” is bad advice.
If you haven’t interacted much with people raised by conservative Christians in the United States, they often have strong feelings about how they were raised.
Gotta catch that stuff early.
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