Similar situation, though my girlfriend has borderline. It's a struggle, one that I occasionally wonder about the worthiness of, but I try to help her through her problems. I just wish I knew how to address the root issue.
Two years working in support trying to perform RCAs on arcane issues and I can't find an answer to why my girlfriend is angry sometimes. It's disheartening to say the least but I haven't given up yet.
The book I Hate You - Don't Leave Me helped me a lot, especially the SET communication skills.
Learning DBT skills (The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Handbook) helped me a lot too especially emotional regulation.
Having an amazing therapist who was supportive as well as a professional and personal support network helped too.
I have borderline and I think working on myself has ironically made me a much better communicator. So there's hope.
I don't know if this is the right explanation but I think someone with BPD is essentially a burn victim except with feelings. I am super sensitive and extreme. You're either amazing or the worst person in the world. When things get bad, I don't have any memory of good times. I can only see black or white- no grey.
This comes from my childhood. My parents were extremely abusive. My dad told me to kill myself when I was suicidal. That's how I survived my childhood. I needed a clean slate and forget all the bad things. Today it hurts me more than it helped me then.
In the past when I got upset, it was instantly I think we should break up. The pain whatever it was, was intolerable. And all those break up pains add up. Not only do they hurt me, but it hurt my partners. And I didn't feel like I could survive the feeling of being broken up with, so I was always trying to protect myself by breaking up first. It's still my first instinct whenever I get a whiff of something going bad - shit, do I need to end this? But now I keep it to myself. I wait. I put my crazy emotions together. Talk calmly. Use a lot of I statements. When you did this, it made me feel this. I'm lucky to have a ridiculously supportive partner. I think he's an alien or at least superhuman. We've never raised our voices at each other once since we've been together except to say I can't hear you from the bathroom haha.
I've gotten a lot better. I'm still working on myself. I hope this helps a little and I wish you and your girlfriend the best.
Perhaps I am seeing patterns where there are none, but I've seen that articles with the wrong kind of controversial potential sometimes get bumped back. I'm having difficulty putting it to words, though, and can't produce any evidence to back it up.
It's a real shame, sometimes. I feel there is a lot that can be learned from Terry Davis and TempleOS.
Yes, there are definitely different weights for threads based on multiple factors such as flags, certain domains/topics, and manual intervention by the mods.
Maybe we shouldn't use avionics (the article we're commenting on is about a buffer overflow bug in new Boeing planes that could drop them from the sky) engineers to train the auto industry on system security
Maybe I'm out of touch, but for messaging apps wouldn't it be desirable to have an actual service from a native app that you can enable/disable in your OS?
If nothing is unlimited, then you should not advertise as such. Not sure why you're even bringing that up except to be pedantic.
Pretty clear statement - unlimited data is either unlimited or not. Throttling customers because they reached the limit on what you're selling as "unlimited" is deceptive at best, and actually harmful at worst. We're seeing the latter here, and still people want to correct the customer on what unlimited means.
Simply put: this marketing tactic is a Bad Thing because it sells people something they didn't want with a sticker that said it was what they wanted.
If you have a security model and a virtual machine, you already have, haven't you? Browsers are in a meaningful way already operating systems. (This is not an original thought).
