It's higher than average/median in the US, but certainly not exceptional. Pretty normal for certain groups of people. There's a huge gap in miles driven between urban and rural area. US average is something like 13-15k miles per year (for all driving, not just commute).
20,000 miles solely for commuting would be about 43 miles each way (if you work 235 days per year), which is obviously more unusual than 20k total miles driven from all sources.
We send mail from a Linode VPS in Frankfurt, which works fine most of the time but a couple of times a year Microsoft puts us on a blacklist, most likely because of a neighbouring IP sending spam.
Hetzner. I once was blacklisted at MSFT and filled out their online form, which solved the problem within a day or two. The only provider that doesn't accept my mail (for years already) is AT&T but this is something I can live with (I rarely have to send something to AT&T, as I am only dealing with locals).
