That’s a life lesson worth learning, yes. Presentation matters, even if intent is genuinely positive, because patience is finite. Sometimes it will be awkward. If something gets flagged and it shouldn’t be, email the mods and ask if they would modify the flag so the comment remains visible. Learn, grow, try, fail, retry doesn’t work if you replace ‘try’ with ‘AI’.
This is what I’m talking about. “Why can’t you just communicate like a neurotypical person?” is like saying “why can’t you just take the stairs like a normal person” to someone wheelchair bound.
So thanks for confirming that, yes, I need to use AI because “life lesson”.
No, the lesson isn’t “do like the neurotypicals do”, the lesson is “neurotypicals have an instinctive response to things they perceive as rude, challenging, or atypical”.
It’s up to you what you do with that knowledge. Conforming is the most boring option. I studied human behavioral psych for two decades instead, and if I felt like it I could probably earn a degree in organizational therapy rather easily now. I don’t feel like it; can’t stand people enough! But at least I know how they tick, so I can plan for their nonsense and work around it. For example!
Linus Torvalds gets thrown around a lot as an example of this, but, like, he really is an excellent example of “subtract the harmful part about calling individuals bad people over bad work, and you still have an abrasive, decisive leader who calls ideas and work bad when he sees it”. You don’t have to curb who you are or how viciously you act if you don’t want to, but demonstrably you will be more welcome to be yourself in more places if you adopt that particular distinction of “hate the work, not the worker” when it’s the work you hate and the worker is just a nameless faceless irrelevance.
That doesn’t guarantee that neurotyps will comprehend, of course, since a lot of them — and us! — have an ego that’s wired to their work competence, but for example it helps managers defend you when you are consistent and clear about separating your criticism of the work and, if any, your criticism of the worker.
There’s a lot more things like that where you can voluntarily learn how those around you function and learn to push their buttons more skillfully in ways that benefit you both, rather than putting their typ as prime over your atyp or torturing them for your benefit alone. Sure, they probably won’t try as hard, and that really fucking sucks. But at the end of the day it’s your call how much energy you spend on protocol adapters to those around you, not theirs.
See, you're just making the same mistake, with this assumption "subtract the harmful part about calling individuals bad people over bad work, and you still have an abrasive, decisive leader who calls ideas and work bad when he sees it”.
I once sat in a promo meeting and the consensus was that a particular individual had a "bad attitude". Someone asked for evidence, and another pointed at a ticket, where the person had written:
"This should not have been a ticket".
Everyone agreed this was very much an example of a bad attitude. After several minutes of discussion around how to exit this person, I asked "Was he right?" and, upon review, everyone agreed that in fact this should not have been a ticket. He was not fired.
There's no "calling individuals bad people" here. You just assumed that when I said "often received feedback that my communication is snarky, rude, or tone-deaf" that I am being snarky, rude or tone-deaf, that I am "calling individuals bad people".
This would be hilarious if it wasn't every fucking conversation about the issue. And it's also the fallout of every time an autistic person is reported "Oh, Bob was so rude today", and then is interpreted as "Oh, did you hear, Bob called someone a cunt."
I’m the asshole I was thinking of when I wrote that, so of course I’m talking from the perspective of my experiences. Amused to be condescended to about the typ/atyp interfacing woes in business. I’m a middle-aged autistic prosociopath with decades of business experience, and it remains validating to this day to be so badly misread by other atyps. Hope you feel better soon :)
Yes, these are MY questions and feelings too. In the past, if I just HINTED at asking these kinds of questions, I was downvoted into oblivion (in other accounts. I have to say THAT specifically because some people here dive in to my account and get super anal about my age, my previous comments, my moniker, ad nauseum)
The parasite is not the disease; the parasite causes the disease.
Similarly, SARS-COV-2 is a virus which causes Coronavirus Disease 2019 (COVID-19) and the Human Immunodeficiency Virus causes AIDS.
People often conflate parasites or viruses with the diseases they cause, and it's practically impossible to eliminate the diseases without eliminating the causative agent, but they are technically distinct concepts.
We use "disease" for maladies caused by infections (virus, bacteria), and we use "disease" for maladies caused by genetics (cancer), caused by chemicals (lung disease), and so forth. So yeah, a parasite certainly would qualify I think.
I guess the same way a virus is a disease, in that a small living thing gets inside you and harms you / causes immune system reactions?
I think technically you get a parasite and then it causes a disease in reaction, but if it's a parasite you can spread it's basically fine to model it / talk about eradicating it in the same way right?
How would you draw the line? The common cold, tuberculosis, malaria, and hookworm are all caused by foreign bodies which enter the human body, reproduce, and cause illness; the only difference is the size of those agents (virus, bacterium, single-cell parasite, multicellular parasite).
You obviously didn't Google this, since there are states in America where the people are PROUD to show off the guns and gun racks in their trucks. Yes, they proudly display these guns. (Texas, looking at you)
Agreed. There are mountains that don't survive getting crushed between two icebergs. If the sphere were made of solid tungsten, then okay, I'd buy it. Short of that, I have doubts.
Correct. The forces involved when icebergs move are vast. This thing will be crushed like a coke can. Even a deep-sea titanium sphere might not survive such an asymetric load as being crushed between a berg and a rock.
I'm pretty sure the issue was with 'move fast and break things' and not using carbon fiber.
I think it was on the youtubes I was watching a story about how they built that thing and it was <spoiler alert> not really fit for purpose. I mean, no big surprise in hindsight.
Interesting take. I've used MacOS for 30+ years, and for the last 20 years have had zero problems with updating immediately... For that matter, iOS has been flawless also.
You've either been very lucky or haven't been using much older software. macOS updates routinely cause issues early in the release cycle, particularly with backwards compatibility. Working in creative fields with lots of niche applications and plugins in use makes this a lot more apparent. Catalina in particular was a total nightmare.
The musicians suffer a lot with macOS upgrades, but I've found even if some hardware isn't supported officially, it most oftentimes works somewhat well.
lol indeed, since iOS 26 my GPS is broken on Apple Maps and Google map. It’ll just freeze the updates very few minutes making it almost useless for driving
